Chapter 9 — Positive
When she is open, curious, or playful.
When she responds positively—smiles, asks questions, maintains eye contact, or engages playfully—you're in. Keep the energy going. Don't overthink it. Match her enthusiasm without going overboard. Build on what she gives you.
She Asks About You
Her: ¿De dónde eres?
Word-by-word: From where are-you?
Natural English: Where are you from?
Your reply: Soy de [país], pero estoy aquí de visita. ¿Y tú?
Word-by-word: I-am from [country], but I-am here of visit. And you?
Natural English: I'm from [country], but I'm here visiting. And you?
She Smiles and Engages
Her: ¡Qué interesante!
Word-by-word: What interesting!
Natural English: How interesting!
Your reply: ¿Qué te gusta hacer aquí?
Word-by-word: What to-you it-likes to-do here?
Natural English: What do you like to do here?
She's Playful
Her: ¿Siempre hablas así con desconocidas?
Word-by-word: Always do-you-speak thus with unknown-women?
Natural English: Do you always talk like this with strangers?
Your reply: Solo cuando me llaman la atención. ¿Funciona?
Word-by-word: Only when me they-call the attention. Does-it-work?
Natural English: Only when they catch my attention. Does it work?
She Asks Follow-Up Questions
Her: ¿Cuánto tiempo llevas aquí?
Word-by-word: How-much time you-carry here?
Natural English: How long have you been here?
Your reply: Llevo [número] días. ¿Me puedes recomendar algo que ver?
Word-by-word: I-carry [number] days. To-me can-you to-recommend something that to-see?
Natural English: I've been here [number] days. Can you recommend something to see?
She Compliments You
Her: Hablas muy bien español.
Word-by-word: You-speak very well Spanish.
Natural English: You speak Spanish very well.
Your reply: Gracias, pero todavía estoy aprendiendo. ¿Me puedes ayudar a practicar?
Word-by-word: Thanks, but still I-am learning. To-me can-you to-help to practice?
Natural English: Thanks, but I'm still learning. Can you help me practice?
She Shows Interest in Meeting
Her: ¿Qué planes tienes para hoy?
Word-by-word: What plans do-you-have for today?
Natural English: What are your plans for today?
Your reply: Nada concreto. ¿Quieres hacer algo juntos?
Word-by-word: Nothing concrete. Do-you-want to-do something together?
Natural English: Nothing concrete. Do you want to do something together?
Key Points
- Match her energy—if she's enthusiastic, be enthusiastic
- Ask follow-up questions based on what she says
- Don't rush to ask for her number—build rapport first
- If she's playful, be playful back
- If she asks about you, answer briefly then ask about her
- Keep the conversation balanced—don't talk only about yourself
- When the conversation is flowing well, that's the time to suggest meeting again or exchanging contact info