Chapter 13 — Not Interested
Clean, confident, non-awkward pivots.
Sometimes she's not interested. That's normal. Don't take it personally. Don't try to convince her. Don't get defensive. Just accept it gracefully and move on. How you handle rejection says more about you than how you handle success.
Direct "No"
Her: No, gracias.
Word-by-word: No, thanks.
Natural English: No, thanks.
Your reply: Vale, sin problema. Que tengas buen día.
Word-by-word: Okay, without problem. That you-have good day.
Natural English: Okay, no problem. Have a good day.
Why: Clean exit. No awkwardness.
She Turns Away
Her: [Turns away, no response]
Your reply: Vale, sin problema.
Word-by-word: Okay, without problem.
Natural English: Okay, no problem.
Why: Acknowledge it briefly and leave. Don't repeat yourself.
She Says "I'm Not Interested"
Her: No estoy interesada.
Word-by-word: Not I-am interested.
Natural English: I'm not interested.
Your reply: Entendido. Que tengas buen día.
Word-by-word: Understood. That you-have good day.
Natural English: Understood. Have a good day.
Why: Respectful and brief. No questions, no pushback.
She's Rude
Her: Déjame en paz.
Word-by-word: Leave-me in peace.
Natural English: Leave me alone.
Your reply: Vale, disculpa.
Word-by-word: Okay, excuse-me.
Natural English: Okay, sorry.
Why: Apologize briefly and leave immediately. Don't engage further.
She Says "I'm Busy" (As Excuse)
Her: Estoy ocupada.
Word-by-word: I-am busy.
Natural English: I'm busy.
Your reply: Vale, sin problema. Que vaya bien.
Word-by-word: Okay, without problem. That it-goes well.
Natural English: Okay, no problem. Have a good one.
Why: Accept it at face value. Don't try to schedule for later.
She Ignores You
Her: [No response, continues what she's doing]
Your reply: Vale, disculpa por molestarte.
Word-by-word: Okay, excuse-me for to-bother-you.
Natural English: Okay, sorry to bother you.
Why: Acknowledge the interruption and leave. Don't repeat your opener.
Key Points
- Accept rejection gracefully—it's not personal
- Don't try to convince her or change her mind
- Don't get defensive or angry
- Keep your exit brief and respectful
- Don't ask "why" or try to understand her reasons
- Don't follow her or try again immediately
- Move on—there are other people to meet
- How you handle rejection shows your character
- Remember: rejection is normal. It's part of the process.