Chapter 17 — Number or Instagram
Short, confident closers.
When the conversation is going well, ask for contact info. Be direct. Be confident. Don't overthink it. Instagram is often easier than a number—less personal, less pressure. But both work. Choose based on the vibe and what feels natural.
Direct Instagram Ask
Spanish: ¿Tienes Instagram?
Word-by-word: Do-you-have Instagram?
Natural English: Do you have Instagram?
When to use: Simple, direct. Works well when conversation is flowing.
Her possible replies:
- "Sí, es [usuario]" (Yes, it's [username]) → You: "Perfecto, te sigo ahora." (Perfect, I'll follow you now.)
- "Sí, pero no lo uso mucho" (Yes, but I don't use it much) → You: "Vale, ¿me lo das igual?" (Okay, can you give it to me anyway?)
- "No tengo" (I don't have it) → You: "¿Número?" (Number?)
Instagram with Context
Spanish: Me gustaría seguir en contacto. ¿Tienes Instagram?
Word-by-word: To-me would-like to-continue in contact. Do-you-have Instagram?
Natural English: I'd like to stay in touch. Do you have Instagram?
When to use: When you want to add context to why you're asking.
Her possible replies:
- "Sí, claro" (Yes, of course) → You: "¿Cuál es?" (What is it?)
- "Prefiero darte mi número" (I prefer to give you my number) → You: "Vale, perfecto." (Okay, perfect.)
- "No uso redes sociales" (I don't use social media) → You: "Vale, ¿número entonces?" (Okay, number then?)
Direct Number Ask
Spanish: ¿Me das tu número?
Word-by-word: To-me do-you-give your number?
Natural English: Can you give me your number?
When to use: Direct and confident. Works when conversation is going well.
Her possible replies:
- "Sí, claro" (Yes, of course) → You: "Perfecto, dímelo." (Perfect, tell me.)
- "Prefiero Instagram" (I prefer Instagram) → You: "Vale, perfecto." (Okay, perfect.)
- "No sé" (I don't know) → You: "Sin problema, no pasa nada." (No problem, it's fine.)
Number with Reason
Spanish: Me gustaría verte de nuevo. ¿Me das tu número?
Word-by-word: To-me would-like to-see-you of again. To-me do-you-give your number?
Natural English: I'd like to see you again. Can you give me your number?
When to use: When you want to be clear about your intentions.
Her possible replies:
- "Sí, vale" (Yes, okay) → You: "Perfecto, dímelo." (Perfect, tell me.)
- "Tal vez" (Maybe) → You: "Vale, ¿Instagram entonces?" (Okay, Instagram then?)
- "No estoy segura" (I'm not sure) → You: "Sin problema, no pasa nada." (No problem, it's fine.)
Either/Or Approach
Spanish: ¿Cómo te puedo contactar? ¿Instagram o número?
Word-by-word: How to-you can-I to-contact? Instagram or number?
Natural English: How can I contact you? Instagram or number?
When to use: Gives her a choice, less pressure.
Her possible replies:
- "Instagram" → You: "Perfecto, ¿cuál es?" (Perfect, what is it?)
- "Número" → You: "Vale, dímelo." (Okay, tell me.)
- "Prefiero no dar nada" (I prefer not to give anything) → You: "Vale, sin problema. Fue un placer conocerte." (Okay, no problem. It was a pleasure to meet you.)
After Getting Contact Info
Spanish: Perfecto, te contacto pronto.
Word-by-word: Perfect, to-you I-contact soon.
Natural English: Perfect, I'll contact you soon.
When to use: After she gives you contact info. Shows you'll follow up.
Key Points
- Ask when the conversation is going well—not too early, not too late
- Be direct and confident—don't apologize for asking
- Instagram is often easier and less pressure than a number
- If she says no, accept it gracefully—don't push
- If she hesitates, give her space—don't pressure her
- After getting contact info, don't overstay—leave on a high note
- Follow up within 24-48 hours—don't wait too long
- If she gives you contact info, that's a good sign—but it's not a guarantee